Through It All

How do you survive when someone you love with all your heart has been ripped from your grasp? Who do you turn to when the people you always turn to are gone? How do you survive today when you wish with every fiber of your being to return to yesterday?

When there was nowhere to turn, I turned to God, and my journey through grief became a spiritual journey into healing. While no one can do the very hard work of grieving for you, we are here to let you know you are not alone, and to guide you towards the light of hope hidden behind the dark clouds of despair.

I pray you find the comfort and peace you seek through my story and I wish you God speed on your journey through grief into healing.

– Donna & the Through It All team

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